Coping with Abandonment Issues: Ways for Healing
As a life strategist, I have faced tough times too. The loss of my baby brother when he was just six months old deeply affected me. I felt a great sadness, which followed me as I grew up. I felt I wasn't good enough and was always scared people would leave me.
To avoid pain, I would please and help everyone around me. But now, I have learned to love and understand myself better. As a famous poet, Rumi said, "The wound is the place where the Light enters you."
This piece of writing (like all I do in my mission) is like a beacon of hope. It is meant to help and guide you to understand yourself better, heal from your past, and grow as a person. It is meant to give you the power to deal with past hurts, stop hurting yourself, manage stress, and have healthier friendships.
Causes of Abandonment Issues
Feeling abandoned can come from many different sad experiences in our childhood. Each one is different but leads to certain interpretations. In my work and personal life, I have seen how these issues can cause deep fears. These fears can change how we perceive things and behave. We might get stuck in unhealthy relationships, overeat to fill the void or have trouble balancing our energy in- and output through overgiving.
Effects of Abandonment Issues on Individuals' Lives
Life can look very tough when you feel like you have been abandoned and feel unworthy and not good enough. Our fears can show up in many ways. We might avoid close friendships, be very sensitive to criticism, or always need people to tell us we're good enough. These feelings often also affect our money life, making us feel like we don't deserve to have plenty.
Everyday Ways for Coping with Abandonment Issues
The journey to overcoming feelings and fear of abandonment might look very difficult, but it's not impossible. As Albert Einstein, a great scientist, once said, "In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity." Let's take this chance to start our healing journey with these basic strategies:
1. Learning to Accept Yourself: Understand your feelings without judging them. You're a human being, and it's okay to be imperfect. Practising mindfulness can help in this.
2. Setting Healthy Boundaries: Boundaries are like bridges that ensure respect and understanding in relationships. It's okay to say 'no' when you need to.
3. Taking Care of Yourself: Make your physical health a priority. It's often said, "Your body is a temple." Take good care of it.
4. Getting Professional Help: Therapy can offer great support. Many studies show that it's effective in dealing with abandonment issues.
5. Positive Self-Talk: Start each day with a positive statement about yourself. Remember, "You are your best investment."
6. Writing Down What You're Grateful For: Shift your focus from what's not there to what's there. Keep a gratitude journal, writing down one thing you're thankful for each day.
7. Doing What You Love: Take part in activities that make you happy and satisfied. "Do what you love, and you will find the way to get it out to the world."
You are not alone on this journey. You have the strength to overcome, grow, and become the best you can be. Believe in yourself, invest in your growth, and remember, "You are your best investment."
If you need more help, look at my resources on coping with abandonment issues. Each step you take is a step towards healing, growth, and self-power. So, take that step today because you're worth it!
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