Is Pleasing, Saving and Helping Others Costing You Your Health?
While recharging my batteries here in Spain, I can honestly say now, reflecting on these last few weeks, that life has been hectic and demanding. I never realised how much until I stepped out of the plane, got in the taxi and arrived here at the flat, where I suddenly felt the tiredness and heaviness in my body. I know I have been giving too much of myself lately.
Yes, it still happens to me that I am in this unconscious modus of giving my all to others without filling my own cup first. Of course, not for long as I have been trained to be aware of my body and its signals since my serious illness almost 20 years ago. But we all need to be vigilant when it comes down to the giving nature and lifestyle of a busy, deeply caring entrepreneur or professional.
If you are one of those people, you know exactly what I mean.
It is so tempting to put the well-being of others before our own, just to please, save or help others. Many of us are so dependent on the recognition or confirmation of others that we do whatever it takes to get it. It is an unconscious engrained pattern and way of living. We sacrifice ourselves and our well-being by saying “yes” to others, while your inner voice is telling you not to do it and wants you to say “yes” to yourself.
Is your success costing you or maybe even killing you?
Are you sacrificing yourself and your well-being while trying to give all that you can to your professional and family life? Think about this. Because if you are repeating your unconscious patterns of giving, helping and saving without first giving to yourself, you are in a dangerous zone. I see it every day in my practice.
“Conscious Self-Care is not selfish; It is your birth-right.”
“Conscious Self-Care” is not only your lifesaver, it is the foundation of your success in every area of your life. If you are not going to take care of the most important relationship in your life, which is the relationship with YOU, you will never experience true happiness and fulfilment.
In all my articles, interviews, messages that I spread globally, I speak about serious Self-Care because it is the solution to every struggle or challenge that you encounter. To me, it includes everything from self-acceptance, self-accountability and self-reliance to numerous ways of taking care of your body, mind and spirit. Self-care is much more than nutrition, exercise and sleep. It means listening to your inner voice, your feelings and your needs. It involves “caring for yourself” on a mental, emotional and physical level.
Why “Conscious” Self-care?
Because you and I have so many unconscious patterns and beliefs that have been installed since our childhood that we need to become conscious about what we think, say or do. We need to become aware and notice our inner critic and low self-worth to step out of that judging modus. We can consciously send love and care to our authentic self and be grateful for who we are and which amazing body we live in.
Self-care is not a luxury, but a necessity. And if you can do it from this specific state of consciousness, it is a remedy against any chronic stress, strain and struggle. You will feel free, fulfilled and fully alive.
And of course, this lifestyle needs to be practiced daily so that you own this deep complete self-care. Only then can you give your love and care to others without unconscious sacrifice of your own well-being.
Be conscious of your self-care today!
To discover more simple-but-powerful steps to activate more “conscious self-care” and stress-free living and set healthy boundaries for yourself, visit my website www.daniellesax.com Download the “Free e-book and Checklist” to find out exactly where you stand in your boundary setting toward others and get the first action steps to finally say “no” to others and “yes” to yourself.
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